9.19.2013

ALL THIS GIRL TALK


So I know that a few days ago I posted about my wedding day. But I want to talk about it today in a lot more detail. What girls don't love to talk about weddings?! 

I was so lucky to have my absolute dream wedding this summer. I couldn't have pictured it better. My mom keeps asking me, "If you could go back and change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?" Honestly, I wouldn't change a thing. It was the happiest day of my life and if I could change one thing I would choose to relive it all over again.

The night before my wedding was crazy busy. Last minute details, Tyler had to run up to Nordstrom because he didn't have a tie yet (boys.. haha) but my sweet best friend Ashlyn came to have a last sleepover with me. It wasn't like a normal sleepover because it was getting really late and I knew I needed sleep. My mom had me take two sleeping pills and I fell asleep with Ash by my side. I felt so grateful for a friend to do this with me and be here with me every step of the way as I started my special day. 

Our temple sealing was at 10:20am, which meant we had to be at the temple at 8:50, and leave Orem at 8. Not too bad right? I got up at 5am, showered, and headed over to my neighbor Jordan McKell's house. She did my hair and makeup while her mom did my mom's. Her and her mom did my whole families hair and did such an amazing job. My mom left a little earlier than I did, and I remember leaving their house a little before 8 and walking across to my house. I saw Tyler's car in the driveway and started running to see him! I walked in and there was Tyler, standing in his suit. He looked so handsome and this was such a priceless moment for us as we kissed and both couldn't believe this day was finally here. I left to the temple with my parents and my aunt Kym while Tyler drove with his Dad and Scott, his sister's boyfriend. This was torture!! I just wanted to see my groom! But my mom convinced me that I would see him soon. 

We arrived at the temple in perfect timing. My dad dropped my mom & I off so we arrived a little before Tyler, who had to park. We checked in at the front desk and sat in the waiting room of the temple until I turned around and saw Tyler at the check-in desk with his Dad and Scott. He then pretty much yelled across the room, “We still on?!” One of the older temple workers laughed and laughed. She loved Tyler’s sense of humor just like I do. We were then together escorted  to fill out paperwork. We were both so happy and couldn’t stop smiling during this time. We were then separated and I was taken to the Bride’s room with my mom and a temple worker to change while Tyler changed too. The Bride’s room made me feel so special and it was absolutely beautiful. All of my temple clothes were laid out for me to put on, and usually you just put them on yourself so that made me feel like royalty. They really treat you that way on your special day. Tyler and I met up and went to the celestial room together. I just have to start by saying that the celestial room in the Salt Lake Temple is unreal. It is truly amazing and the detail is phenomenal. It was awe-inspiring and really, no word I can think of can possibly describe how it is there. I loved it and was overwhelmed by the spirit. There were just so many emotions and I was using all that I had to try to not start crying. (didn't last long) It was really special that I had about 40 minutes with Tyler to soak in the importance of the temple in our busy day. I think it’s really great they do this. Our really sweet sealer then came to get us. He escorted us into the sealing room. The feeling that I feel most abundant in the temple is love. And that is just what I felt in the sealing room, love. It was all of the people that I love: family, friends, relatives, etc. All there for US. It was a really special feeling. It was kind of all a blur but there are a few things that I do remember from the sealing. I remember feeling really proud of ourselves for making it to the temple. It was such a reassuring feeling that OF COURSE we did the right thing. There is absolutely nothing better than being worthy to enter the temple. I am so glad that we didn’t settle for anything less. After our sealing, Tyler and I were separated and my mom and Barb (my darling mother in law) helped me change into my wedding dress. This was a special time for me because I truly love both of my moms. I was then reunited with Tyler and as we waited at the bottom of the stairs to make our grand exit as Mr. & Mrs. Vance! 

We then greeted our family and friends,


took a lot of photos, 



and went to our delicious luncheon at the Lion House. I love this candid photo of Tyler and I before entering together,



We had our reception later that evening and everything was perfect. Weddings are so amazing and I am so very happy in this stage of my life right now. Tyler and I's relationship is not perfect, but we love the gospel, love each other, and love the Lord. I feel so lucky to be married to the love of my life! The temple is so amazing. Do all you can to make it there one day.

all photos credit to Stephanie Sunderland Photography


10 comments:

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    1. Thanks amanda! Yours was too, loved your dress.

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    1. Thanks Kimberly!! It was such a great day.

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  3. Wow wow wow! I love all the pictures, but especially the last one! You two seem so at peace!
    When I see happy couples coming out of the Temple, one question pops to my mind: Do couples know what their wedding ceremony was going to be like? I know that Mormons keep their ceremonies inside the Temple secret. Did you have the chance to witness another wedding before you got married?
    I personally think it is unusual to go to my wedding without knowing what is ahead of me. But I enjoy learning about different cultures and religions. And - I admit - am very curious about your answer :)

    Katie

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    1. Hi Katie! Thanks so much! That's all so nice of you to say. It was such a magical day - I love having photos to look back to it! The ceremonies that happen in temples aren't necessarily secretive, but they're so sacred and special that they're rarely talked about outside the temple for that reason - keeping them sacred and special. Before you get married, (for me it was a week prior) I went through the temple for the first time. There's a room in the temple called the Celestial Room which is an absolutely beautiful room where at the very end, you can sit in there for as long as you like. People choose to pray in there, find answers to questions or trials in their lives, as well as feel peace. In that room, my parents and my fiancé (now husband) and I were able to talk about the sealing process. So it wasn't too much of a surprise. It was such an amazing day and I feel so lucky to have been married in such a beautiful place with such a strong spirit. To answer your question, I didn't attend another wedding sealing prior to my wedding but i'm sure you could if you knew of a friend getting married before you!

      I understand your thinking with not understanding going into your very own wedding without knowing much!! But I have been raised in an LDS family my entire life, and I knew all along that my wedding was going to be a little bit different than those I had seen on TV. As a child, I'm not sure I understood why really, but now I do. I have such a strong testimony of the gospel, that there is no other place I would want to be married! The temple is a beautiful place. If you have any other specific questions about the temple or my religion, feel free to email me at vance.madeline@gmail.com. I love talking with new friends. Thanks for stopping by my blog Katie!!

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    2. Hi Madeline,
      I appreciate very much that you have shared so much of your religion with a complete stranger. I can now understand a little bit better why you got married without knowing much of the ceremony.
      Please keep writing in your blog, I enjoy reading in it.
      Wishing you all the best for the new year!
      Katie

      p.s.: Please keep the "Anonymous"-button so that even readers without an URL can write to you. I often miss it in other blogs.

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    3. You are so welcome! I will totally keep the anonymous :) No worries. Thanks so much for commenting! I love getting to know strangers :)

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